A very delayed Happy 2019!

 A late-night thought about love and partnership.

Over these past five years, I have gotten a real chance to see partnerships up close. Whether it was through those close friends around me, those couples from a distance, or from the very personal perspective of my own personal relationships. I have opened my eyes to many different interpretations of partnerships, making me appreciate the very word itself more than ever before. What a powerful word! A reliable one. A "side-kick" vibe at times. A real branch to hang that swing of emotions and therefore the swing of life's pitches.

I came across this song recently, which has also spiked my interest and expanded this train of thought...

Wouldn't Come Back by Tousdale

I see that true partnership means that, not only do you actively choose that person each day you choose to wake up and live life, but also, regardless of the length of your relationship, you are still willing to respectfully let that person go. 

I think appropriate vows to a partner should entail something along the lines of acknowledging the fact that they are their own person. We may not have loved each other before in life, but now we understand that our love is unique and irreplaceable. I will love this person until the moment I take my last breath. 

This also means that this person may not be my partner in life until my last breath. And that's okay. 

People grow. People grow closer to who they are, as individuals. In this moment, we are growing together. 

That could mean that, later in life, we may be growing in different ways and therefore, in different directions. It doesn't mean I don't love that person, it just isn't our time to grow together anymore. 

I think too often we are still running after a relationship that we know is no longer lifting us up or making us a better version of ourselves.